After some reflection this after noon, I realized I have been working 40 hour week since September 7th. During this time Troy and I have seen less and less of each other. Henry died we adopted Thomas, then work started. Troy is going to school and working about 15 hours a week. As you can imagine, there isn't a lot of Julia and Troy time.
Despite coming home exhausted and just wanting to just crawl in bed, Troy and I still manage to spend some time together every night. We read and pray together and then lights out! We spend some time together in the morning eating some breakfast or lately Julia finishing getting ready and Troy laying on the bed; then that's about it. You would think that in the beginning it was nice to see each other than after a while the habit dies from the want to sleep in. But it hasn't! I think the want to do it has even stronger. Since there is such little time during the week, we just want to spend any second we can together.
What else has helped as odd as this may sound, is doing chores together. Despite the dreadful schedule the house gets clean and laundry still get done every week. We have even started doing some of the things together. It gets done faster, there is less for one person, and we can actually spend some time together. When something has to be done at my parent's house we both go over to share the work or just so that we are both there in case something else comes up or there is a problem. Thomas's litter box and toys get cleaned and put away as needed and we have even decided that both of us will always go to vet appoints. This is "our baby" and we both want to stay in the loop.
I have finally put my foot down about working Sundays. I have told all the people I work for that I will no longer do it in less it's an emergency which is: Someone is dying, lots of blood, or there is absolutely no one able to come in and the person will be left alone. Troy still works some on Sundays, but there is now a day were we can count on seeing each other for longer than an hour.